Sometimes, things get a little bit overwhelming.
Whether it’s from school, work, or life, there will be days where everything, even the simplest of things, seem to be weighing you down. For some people, this may happen once awhile when all your schedules clash, but for others, this may be something they have to cope with almost daily.
Today, I’ll be sharing how I tend to unwind after a hectic day, and my thoughts on self care. I haven’t done mental health related posts in awhile now, and I though that this would be a suitable one to get back into, as this is something that we all need to work one, more or less.
Let’s dive right in, shall we?
Before I start this post ~ these are just some things I find that are the most helpful to me. The purpose of this post if to hopefully encourage you to take care of yourself more ❤
// make some tea or drink cold water
Tea should technically be a synonym for the name “Kimberly”. There’s something about the smell of tea that just soothes me and calms the storm that’s ravaging inside. Well, either hot tea, or cold water helps. Some people find that cold/warm things helps them to ground themselves – and they both taste good so… 😂
// use a heatable shoulder pad (w/ heat in winter, non heat in not winter)
Again, somewhat like the tea and cold water. When it’s cold, I heat it up in the microwave, but when it’s too warm for that (like now), I just put it own my shoulders – I find that this is similar to the purpose of a weighted blanket. In case you’re not familiar with what that is, it’s basically a blanket with pellets/beads inside to make it heavier which many says creates a calming effect. Sometimes when a person is extremely anxious, they may feel like they’re “floating away” if that makes sense, so having something with weight on their body can help them to feel grounded.
// listening to music
To be honest, but I feel like music helps with a lot of things?? Most of the time I wear earbuds, which makes me feel like I’m “inside” the tune (I really don’t make sense haha). Recently I’ve been listening to are lofi, piano, and instrumental music; even though the three are all extremely different, they all help in a sense. Some artists I’ve been loving lately are Aimyon, Aimer, and Marina and the Diamonds – highly recommend :))
// organize my room
Here’s the thing – when I procrastinate on cleaning my room, I will somehow be able to stand the pile of fabric and books on my desk. But!! When I do start to organize, I will want to make everything upright in its designated place 😅 For some apparent reason, organizing, stacking books, and folding my clothes often find themselves onto my nightly unwinding routine. Sometimes doing a repetitive action such as folding laundry or floofing (my spin on fluffing) the pillow and blanket helps if you find your mind and heart racing.
Anyways, this is something I do quite often, so hopefully you may find it helpful too :))
// sleep when you are actually tired
Ahh. Sleep. Remember when we were young, we’d always want to stay up late because it felt like we were more “grown up”? Well, guess what, child Kimberly: honey you don’t want that. Right now, if I can sleep no later than 11:00PM, I will be a happy potato.
Here’s an exception though. Do you ever find yourself sometimes lying on your bed for what seems like hours, only to find yourself more awake as each minute passes by? Well, my dear friends, here’s a solution that has worked pretty well for me, and I do hope so that will be too for you: sleep when you feel tired. Lying on your bed usually won’t help to calm your thoughts. Therefore, I’d suggest doing a quiet, tranquil activities such as reading*, listening to quiet music, or even bedtime yoga.
*basically the only time I have on a school night to read 😑
As mentioned on the title, I thought that I should have a lil talk about self care. I’ve been thinking about this for awhile now, and perhaps this is a good time to bring that discussion in as we this post is somewhat correlated to that topic.
Anyways, here’s my thought. You know how roughly a few months ago, self care became a widespread “trend” on social media platforms? Regarding the “trend”, I’m half divided with it – yes, for the awareness in self love and care, but no, in how it became sort of an “aesthetic” thing. By now you’ve probably already seen a lot of tips on what you can do to help yourself, whether if it’s on a blog, Youtube video, or perhaps social media like Instagram.
However, I recently thought of something that I haven’t really seen a lot on the articles and videos I watch about self care. Upon reflection on my own past, I realized that not all self care actions have to be physical; in fact, it can also include changing your mindset. For someone who has struggles with perfectionism and self shame, changing their mindset may include slowly working towards letting yourself go from the cage you have locked yourself in for years.
So what’s the conclusion? I believe, that self care is different for everyone and is necessary for both our physical and mental health. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to practice self care. It may be as simple as putting on lotion for my very dry skin, or something that requires more time like biking to calm myself during a busy school month. Humans are complex beings, and we are allowed to have our downs. The purpose of self care isn’t to avoid our problems – instead, it’s to help us face them in a healthy way, as we learn and grow from our past experiences.
how do you unwind after a long day? what are your thoughts on self care? how do you practice self love? favourite type of tea* to drink? take care of yourselves, always <33
*or coffee 😉